When Alex proposed, there was no doubt, or fear, or anxiety in my mind. It was amazement, joy, and relief. Because that’s what it feels like when you’ve finally found The One.
There was no doubt in my mind because I decided years ago that he was The One. I can’t pinpoint the exact first time I thought, “He’s The One.” But it occurred to me many different times in the course of our (almost) five year relationship.
It occurred to me when he told me he would follow me to law school when that was the dream I was pursuing.
It occurred to me when he said the biggest compliment he’s ever received was when I told him he would be a good father someday.
It occurred to me when he reacted to seeing my newborn niece’s little feet, “They’re just so tiny!”
It occurred to me when he told me not to keep applying to jobs that weren’t going to lead me down the path I wanted to go.
It occurred to he when he owned up to his mistakes and it again occurred to me when I knew deep down that we could make it through anything.
It occurs to me each time he holds my hand during moments that he knows are hard for me.
It occurs to me each time he gently pushes me to open up because he can tell I’m bottling something up again.
It occurs to me each time he holds me and it feels like home. Each time I long to put my head on his chest, simply to forget the world around us.
But when he finally got down on one knee surrounded by rose petals in a candlelit blanket fort, it finally occurred to me that this would be forever; that all my hopes for us would soon be reality; that all the struggles we’ve been through together have only made us stronger; that I finally found someone who wants to spend the rest of their life with me.
So when you finally find The One, who makes you feel safe, comfortable in your own skin, confident, and believes in you even when you don’t believe in yourself, and who honestly makes you realize why all the others didn’t work out, don’t let them go.
And when you finally find The One, you’ll just know.