Crossing off another item from my Future Posts list, today I am finally going to respond to this article on Thought Catalog. The author here is talking about how difficult it is to be single and attempt to date in a world of constant distractions. I am going to elaborate but from the point of view from someone who is in a long-term relationship, in a world of constant distractions.
These distractions create totally different issues for couples. I am a firm believer that date nights should mean leaving your phones at home. Even in your pocket or your purse, the temptation is still there. Although it’s hard to go anywhere without a barrage of screens anyways. When we’re having a discussion, put your phone away. When we’re cuddling in bed, put your phone away. When you’re having problems in your relationship, disconnect from social media. All of these things that were designed to help us communicate better can often times widen the gaps between us.
For the case for long distance relationships, use your technology wisely. Set aside times in the day to have a Skype date, or CoffeeTime, (a coffee date over FaceTime). Don’t let the temptations and the distractions around you keep you from showing your love.
The landscape of relationships has changed over time due to technology. Is being in constant communication with our significant others ultimately helping, or hurting our relationships? Before texting, we didn’t have to worry about what it meant when they took too long to respond. We didn’t have to worry about what it meant if our partner looked up his/her ex on social media. We weren’t able to hide behind passwords and anonymous messages. And when something broke, you worked to fix it. So what has technology done to relationships?
I am just leaving these questions open-ended for your musings. I don’t have all the answers, and I don’t think there is a single right answer. All I know for sure is that relationships take work, and even people who love their job get distracted now and again.
Maybe the most romantic thing you can do in a modern relationship, is unplug. Let that person be your only distraction. Show him/her that in a world where we’re surrounded by distractions, he/she is your favorite of them all.